We started as friends, and slowly progressed into the dating
phase. I remember as the relationship
changed knowing without a doubt that I was created to be the wife of this
man. Our lives began to intertwine in a
way that I couldn’t image that I would ever feel any different. Of course I would do anything and everything
for my love bug, he was my everything!
Well add in time, kids, bills, jobs, society, and much more
and well that love changes. How it changes is up to you. Marriage has its hills
(some feel more like mountains), with lots of ups and downs. During those
tougher times, it becomes easy to start wondering if you are getting your fair
share. I can honestly say I have said the words “I deserve….” Fill in the
blank. Somehow we get the idea that
because of what we have done, or who we are that we deserve something in
return. We start filling our heads with
thoughts like, “well if he loved me then….” Or “ He isn’t doing his part in
this marriage so why should I? Good question why should I?
That question led me into some thought and prayer about why
or what I should be doing. So, I closed my eyes and began to pray “Father, why
should I put so much effort in when he…” Then, one of my kids came into the
room saying “Mom, why do I have to clean up, my brother isn’t!” I sighed opened
my eyes and said “You need to worry
about what YOU should be doing, let me worry about what he is doing!” Then I returned to my prayer, and I heard my Savior
repeat those words to me. “Lisa, worry about what YOU should be doing, let me
worry about what he is doing!” Oh.
So remember I was saying that when we were dating I was
certain I was created to this man’s wife? Well, is that my life purpose?
Actually, I was created to serve God,
and in doing so, he created me to be this man’s wife! To love him and to
cherish him, asking for nothing in return. When I do my job, that I was created
to do and do it well, that is what matters. It does not matter if he
appreciates it or reciprocates.
We have to think
about why we do what we do. Do I try and be a good wife, because I think I am a
good person? Do I do loving things because I think I am a loving person? Is it because I want something in return? My
concern needs to be on what my spouse deserves, not what I deserve or what I
will get out of it. Do I want him to
look at me with googly eyes like he did when we were dating? Or write me sweet
love notes? Of course I do. I bet he has a few things that he wishes were more
like they were 20 years ago also! That being said, things might not be as mushy
as they were 20 years ago, but I adore this man with all my heart. It is important
for me to always remember, I was not put on this earth for my pleasure, but to
love and serve the God who created me. My
heart knows that when I am doing what I was called to do my Savior fills my
heart with joy and love.
My motivation is driven by my desire to give my husband what
HE deserves, a wife that loves and adores HIM, because that is what God created
me to do!
No comments:
Post a Comment